Groom hair physics makes hair weird and stretchy - Rendering

My groom hair looks like this but when I put it in the level and turn on physics, it becomes this. I know I have to adjust a few settings but nothing this horrendous should be happening I saw this being a problem somewhere but forgot. I hope somebody smarter than me can understand what in the frickity frack is going on

ArtStation - Strand hair ready for game (realtime groom)

Hair Designer - Dynamic hair & fur tool

How to Animate Hair with Hair Dynamics in Blender

Prof. Anand Belhe - MIT Institute of Design

Groom physics simulation issue - World Creation - Epic Developer Community Forums

Grooms are badly lit, and don't deform correctly [Solved] — polycount

weird noise in hair render animation. cycles - Particles and Physics Simulations - Blender Artists Community

Groom (Hair & Fur) Epic Developer Community

Groom Asset Editor User Guide Unreal Engine 4.27 Documentation

3D Hair Grooming — Mortar Studios

Blog ACM Interactions

ArtStation - Strand hair ready for game (realtime groom)

Fotis Georgiadis – Fotis Georgiadis

Grooms are badly lit, and don't deform correctly [Solved] — polycount